How To Build Up A Child’s Self-Confidence


Positively seen that a child with positive self-esteem holds more factors for good mental health. It helps to create strong relationships with societies and build confidence. Cultivation of confidence is crucial as it contributes to positive social interaction. Confidence in a child also works as a buffer whenever your child deals with stress and any kind of negative consequences or situations.  It also plays an important role in dealing with the challenging phase throughout their life.

What Exactly Self-confidence is all about

Self-confidence in your child works more like a lifetime passport for the lifetime membership of mental health and social wellness. Self-confidence is considered the foundation of child wellness and works as the key to success as an adult. At any age, how you feel about yourself has an impact on your behavior. Consider a period when you were exceptionally proud of yourself. You probably found it much simpler to get along with people and have positive feelings toward them. Consider using these suggestions to help raise a confident youngster.

Here are a few simple yet important things you may do every day to boost your child’s self-esteem.

  • Figure out what healthy self-esteem looks like

Before proceeding with the development of self-confidence, it is more important to look after what it exactly looks like. Mainly self-esteem or self-development is all about how children see them. It also includes their thoughts and the ability to do things. You can develop or shape them based on the love you provide to them and how much you are willing to support them. Self-esteem development also depends on how much encouragement they are getting from their important people like their teachers, friends, and others.

Self-confidence is not about thinking that the entire world revolves around them only. Self-confidence and self-obsession are two different things. For the proper development of self-confidence, you need to balance the self-esteem of your child. You will have to balance out important values like empathy, manners, behavior, and charity with a sense of gratitude.

  • Provide their personal space and independence

Most of the time it is seen that parents become overprotective towards their children. Being overprotective is not going to help your kid build in their self-development and confidence.

Overprotection makes them feel like they are under their parent’s control and are not allowed to do their way of things. During the time of elementary school years, your child is considered a fast-growing independent. By the time they learn how to do their activities. They learn to become independent. Make sure to allow your children to grow increasingly with more personal space and independence. Allow your child to look around and figure out how to talk to their teachers regarding any issues and how to organize their assignments and essential items. Let them learn their chores like wearing uniforms while going to school and others. These activities play a major role and positively impact their self-esteem.

Allow your children to advocate for themselves in difficult situations as much as possible and ask questions when they face challenges before you intervene. This will help your child to build their independence and ultimately it will increase their self-confidence.

  • Provide unconditional love and encouragement

Children need love and support from their parents to achieve something big. The achievement of self-confidence is no less than winning an award in your life. For that, as a parent, you will have to provide unconditional love to your child. Make sure to provide support as per their requirement and be available in their tough times. Your unconditional love and support lay the groundwork for every healthy and strong relationship that they may form in their lives.

You can hug your kids when you have to say goodbye to provide them with a sense of love. You need to express your love every single day to build your self-esteem. When kids grow, the foundation of love, support, and encouragement in any situation ensures to build their social circles. They learn to make new friends and become able to be more confident in society. They become capable of making bonds with their teammates as well.

  • Spend quality time and Have fun together

Spending quality time is what is lacking during the process of building self-confidence in our child. Due to hectic schedules, most parents are not able to provide enough time for their kids. Because of this, your child may feel lonely and may not be able to proceed with self-esteem development.

It is crucial to manage your time to give quality time to your child. You can play together and have fun. This will help you to better understand your child. When you spend time with your kid, it shows them your love, support, and encouragement. According to the research, it was found that having quality time with your child can increase their self-confidence and ability to be an interesting person to form social bonds and also helps to increase the happiness of your child. This research shows it also reduces the risk of depression and anxiety when you engage in healthy play with your kid.

In addition, when vaccination rates rise and pandemic restrictions loosen, fostering confidence will help your youngster deal with returning to school and social activities. A terrific way for both of you to decompress is to play and enjoy yourself.

The Final Talk

One of the best uses of your time as a parent is working to increase your child’s self-confidence. Your children will be prepared for success now and in the future, even though it might occasionally need a little extra work on your part.

But just as you shouldn’t anticipate perfection from your children, you shouldn’t anticipate it from yourself either. It’s alright if you don’t always get it right. Despite the occasional error, you are fostering their confidence as long as you regularly aim to spread love and happiness.

© Ruchie Verma.

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Ruchi Verma

Certified parenting teen practitioner, multiple Award winner, mother of two active kids believes in sharing the right source of information to readers which could help them in every possible way!!

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  1. In general cases personal space is something that parents fail to acknowledge. The tips that you have shared are quite helpful for all mothers.

  2. It’s so easy to crush a child’s self-confidence and yet it takes ages to build it up. Your article is inspiring and motivating. I’m sure it’ll help a lot of parents out there struggling to do the right thing. Thank you for sharing!

  3. I’m glad I follow your points. I also make sure my kids know that I can also make mistakes and I’m not Google. Hahaha! I’m having a good feeling that some of us will bring up good individuals for the next generation!

  4. The self-confidence of a child definitely starts at the home. Being more mindful of our actions as parents and how we address situations where self-esteem is low for our children truly matters. Great article for parents!

  5. It is so necessary that children build up self-confidence at a young age. The early impressions of childhood make or mar their future personalities. As parents we need to be empathetic and support and fill them with confidence at every sep.

  6. This is an important article for parents and caregivers. The tips offered are practical and helpful in building a child’s self-confidence. Nice article!

  7. Self Confidence is a key tool in development of a child. The tips and tricks that you have shared here in this post are so valuable in parenting and nurturing a child. It is very true that sometimes the expectation of parents make the child doubt their ability and their confidence takes a hit. So we as parents also need to operate from a space of calm and trust towards our children.

  8. Children are not too demanding and need some attention of parents which is okay and one should give them too. On the other hand their space is equally important to develop their hobbies and self growth. Wonderfully written article.

  9. Personal space … unfortunately majority dont know the meaning of these 2 words. We all need personal space and a child is no different. Its high time that parents should understand it.

  10. It is so necessary that children build up self-confidence at a young age.
    And to that smallest of things could hinder that
    Parents some times overly criticise children and they lose confidence

  11. Self Confidence is a key tool in development of a child. The tips and tricks that you have shared here are so valuable in parenting and nurturing a child. Wonderfully written.

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