Do your kids fight? Do they argue? Do they involve in the physical fights too? Well, this is so normal, and if you ask me siblings fights are extremely normal between them.
Being a mother of a child and a teenager, I am most of the time act like a referee between the two. I remember my childhood memories with my three sisters; we had conflicts and even fiction, and today we laugh at those fights.
Every child is unique and so is every bond, but the purest among all is one we call siblings bond, being first best friends and sharing everything it is quite natural that they have fights, arguments, and conflicts.
Role being a parent in Sibling’s fights
Well, I can’t think there could be one or two or three reasons siblings fights and have an argument. In my case there is a good age gap between the two but still they have they are ready to get in the battlefield with their swords out for small or big things.
Here comes your role as a parent to guide them. Tips I am going to share is what I try at my home and seems working fine:
Communication is the key, and I always advocate this. Separate them and talk to both of them, It’s very important to listen both sides stories and choose words accordingly so none of the child feel that the other one is getting prioritised.
We, at home listen and give our gyaan after they finish describing the reason of fight.
2. Interfere when required
Trust me, they will laugh when grown up on these fights. Don’t interfere until unless they required a referee. Let the resolve their conflicts and I have seen many times at my home, when they fight and if I jump in to solve they just mention “No worries we are just talking” and then I realised let them handle as far as they can.
3. They learn as they watch
Make sure you set a good example in front of them, how we as parents behave with our siblings they learn a lot from that and adapt in their nature. So, make sure the kind of relationship you will carry, they will carry too.
4. Keep a tap on verbal fights
Language is very important, as a parent make sure the language they are speaking during the verbal fight. Make sure foul language should immediately controlled and set the rule at home. Language affects mental health more than any physical health damage.
5. Be netural
It’s very important to understand if you will take any one side, the other will feel cornered in-spite of their fault and can have a negative feeling for the sibling. The best solution is to make their fight look like disadvantageous and for that we usually start playing music which lights up their mood or start playing some game to distract them and when they are back in good mood, easy for us to make them understand.
These are some simple tips and tricks which can make the bond of siblings stronger and they will cherish lifelong.
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