Raising an Optimistic teenagers

Optimistic teenagers or being an optimistic person is very important we always listen and we need to address that to our growing kids. Till now I have shared how to handle and guide your child if they are facing cyberbullying or adolescent depression.

Now, answer yourself “Optimism -Does it really matters?” “Is it always good to be optimistic in every situation?” Actually not!! What we need to pass our kids is to be “GROUNDED OPTIMISM”.

Grounded optimism

Grounded optimism means to accept the failures or life and learn from those mistakes along with going back to the situation when you faced the same kind of situation and passed the challenge of life.

Let’s say your kid failed in exam, let them know the reason of their failure and accept that. But, with that make sure they rewind and see how they worked prepared themselves for the exam when they passed and this is when they learn to be grounded optimistic.

As I always says, be a role model as they pick up from your attitude towards life.

3 Optimistic lessons

  1. Tell them that our inner thoughts define us not the materialistic things we have or don’t have. Your inner thoughts are a treasure that no-one can take away from you, it makes you stronger.
  2. Your inner thoughts will give the right direction to respond to any hard situation of life as then it will depend on how you respond.
  3. Most important is how you react in a bad and tough situations. Remember that every situation is a learning.

Teach them to be happy

It’s so important to raise a happy child, now what is happiness if I have to explain it, I will divide it as:

Happiness=50% Genes+10% Situation+40% Intentional Activity.

The way you react and do your everyday work matters a lot and being a parent if you create a happy environment you will surely raise a happy child.

5 Elements of Happiness

There are 5 elements of happiness which we should pass to our growing kids and raise them into optimistic teenagers. It is a scientifically proven happiness model by Dr. Marty Seligman one of the founders of positive psychology called PERMA.

Optimistic teenagers
Source: Google
  1. P- Positive Emotion: It’s important to make sure that your child should have positive emotions in life. Every emotion at times is important but turning that emotion into positive terms is really matters. It’s OK to be angry, sad, or restless but need to turn these emotions into positive emotions.
  2. E- Engagement: Let them follow their happiness and go in that flow. Allow them to follow their passion or job they love, when they are engaged in something they love to do like reading, playing, music or anything nothing else will matter and they will be happy.
  3. R- Relationship: Relationship, friendship matters the most in this delicate age. Blood relations, bond with family is something we can’t change but we need to let them know and allow them to choose to be friends with those who are willing to be your genuine friends. As I mentioned they learn a lot from parents, and so if you have a stable circle of friends and you value those relationships, they will learn the same.
  4. M- Meaning and Purpose: Let them know the meaning or purpose of any action you perform as they will learn from you. Give them a job or work which marks an impact and they learn and find the meaning of that job and find that interesting and help them to be happy.
  5. Accomplishment: This is important to make them understand. Scoring 100% in an exam or winning a basketball match is the end result or accomplishment they have achived and made them happy. Ask them to rewind and analyze the path of achieving the final result which makes them happy. This is called the happiness of accomplishment.

Teach your child to be happy NOW, this will make them optimistic towards life and you will raise an optimistic teenagers.

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Author: Ruchi Verma
Certified parenting teen practitioner, multiple Award winner, mother of two active kids believes in sharing the right source of information to readers which could help them in every possible way!!

27 thoughts on “Raising an Optimistic teenagers

  1. So so true Ruchi. I have a teenager and I go through her emotional rollercoaster each day. I keep telling her about being happy in the present. I was talking to her about grounded optimism yesterday only. It is a very delicate age and our handling techniques should be very thoughtful.

  2. Totally agree with you. My son is on his teens now and I have to introduce different techniques to cope with his emotional rollercoaster. Very useful article.

  3. I completely second your thought.. Raising a optimistic child is very important especially when their is so much competition around. We need to teach them failure is part of success and learning from failure is much more important than anything in life.

  4. PERMA is such a logical pie – a good guideline to follow and inculcate in the kids.
    I agree, we have to teach them constantly to be happy now, to live in the now, and to understand that things get better too.

  5. Such a great post one need to adapt to raise a healthy relation with a child I can totally relate to it since my daughter is ensuring that change and every day we have a new message which I need to sort

  6. You have brought out some really important points. It is so critical for children and especially teenagers to have a positive outlook. Only with optimism can they forge ahead and face the challenges of life.

  7. Optimism plays a major role in life and teenagers are on ride with emotions so managing them well is the key. I like your breakup and the method to handle the situation. These pointers shall surely help many to understand their kids better.

  8. I m loving your this series. With each post you are sharing great information for raising happy teenagers. My daughter is 11 and I agree that this age brings lots of physical, mental and emotional change s. As a parent it is our responsibility to teach them how to handle tough situation.bi really like the infographic you have share in this post.

  9. As a teenager I was very calm…. its only during my MBA days that I started getting hot headed. My kids are very happy kids but they are at the age when emotions are flowing and they r also exploring so at tmes I see fake crying by my 4yr old to gain attention n my 7yr old getting annoyed over petty things. It’s about how u deal with their situation to encourage their emotions…. while I ignore fake crying, I have to speak positive words to my daughter to pep her up.

  10. I remember my teenage days when even the slightest trigger could result in mood swings, and it felt as if everything was conspiring to go against me & my actions. And in such situations, only a happy & positive mindset would work. This is such an excellent post. It helped me in understanding grounded optimism.

  11. I deal with Teenage clients almost on a daily bais and I am surpised to see how things are much different for the kids today. Internet has to some extent added to the stress in Teenagers and ahas also become a trigger of anxiety in some. I am so glad you wrote about this.

  12. It is not easy to raise kids these days and conscious parents like us need more such articles . I am a long way to reach that stage but nice tips and would surely keep in mind

  13. What a lovely read. All along I have been focusing on how to raise my mixer-grinder (every year is a new stage), but I’ve been increasingly worried about how to raise a boy to be a good teenager and eventually a good man. You have shared a few practical and reasonable tips. I suppose we learn from our parents and our own days. What a rebellious phase it is- to live the teenage life.

  14. Thats absolutely correct and apt to the point. When i was a teenager i used to get such teachings from my parents.
    That time teaching definitely helped me to cope up better at that time.
    You have really covered all the aspects.

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