“Life doesn’t come with a manual, it comes with a mother”

Really!! Do you believe this? I agree, being a Mom is the wonderful experience and journey for any woman, but hey being a mom doesn’t mean I AM A GOOGLE!!

I am a mother of two adorable kids and trust me both are my heartbeats but yes there were situations and times when I wanted to shout on a high pitch and tell world “Dude!! Mujhe Sab Nahi Pata”.

Recently I got chance to attend an event filled with moms like me who have different stories of their journey organized by ALL OUT a really special campaign which shares the same chord of mine that its good to be tough and speak out that yes #MujheSabNahiPata.

It was indeed a pleasure and great learning listening to the most wonderful and knowledgeable panelists Mrs. Sonali Bendre (Actress and Author), Dr. Samir Dalwai (Pediatrician), Dr. Rupal Patel (Psychologist), Mrs. Ruchita Dar Shah (leads the mommy community First Moms Club on FB).

Sonali Bendre shared her experience about motherhood where she was being judged many times by society and even Ruchita too shared the same about it.

Dr. Samir shared his experience too saying that it’s tough being a mom and be vigilant but it really need support and that support should be from father and he mentioned that today fathers are also taking equal responsibility for kids growth and health.

He explained how dengi, Malaria is dangerous and we should be careful for this, We should not overlook the symptoms, if your kid is suffering from fever and he/she is not active even after the fever goes down, don’t get confused with normal fever.

Fever with joint pains, weakness, dullness, rashes are alarming and you should visit your doctor immediately. We normally think Dengue mosquitoes only grow in satnding water, No!! It could be in clean water too. So, you have to be very careful.

Beautiful video of All out #MujheSabNahiPata was shown to us and wow…it touched me to the core and I feel it is maybe a story of every second mother in the world which took me to the memory lane.

Who said after becoming mother social and family pressure starts … No!! It begins from the time you conceive and announces your pregnancy!!

My #MujheSabNahiPata Experience

In 2014, when I told my family that yes..I am going to be Mom for the second time all kind of suggestions and gyaan started flowing from everywhere. I followed them too, but my doc said: “Ruchi you need proper bed rest due to some initial complications”.

I called my in-laws and went on proper bed rest as I really don’t want to take any chance. Week 24^th and my baby was too active inside not even make me rest. I used to cry and tell I can’t sleep even. All used to tell me..”Its good baby is active”.

It was 2^nd April my husband was out of town (It’s a long way to go for delivery) and I was with my mom and early morning I told my mom we need to go to the hospital now. It’s just my 6^th month going on… we rushed to the hospital and the doctor admitted me for observation. I called back my husband saying not feeling good, he tried to tell me to stay calm as all will be fine and he will be back any moment.

My water bag got raptured and full water got discharged. I delivered my little Miracle boy in 25^th week and doctors told us that hopes are less but he survived like a fighter.

But, I faced everyday n numbers of questions from everyone who ever comes to meet me or call me “ What have you done? Why delivery so early? Have you picked something heavy? Have you gone out? Have you driven?

I was tensed in the same way for my son or maybe more than anyone … I planned my baby and took every good precaution I really don’t know what happened!! I was on the same stage not knowing how things turned this way.

It’s not only when you become a mother family, society or anyone starts questioning you it starts from the time you announce your pregnancy and trust me #MujheSabNahiPata

Today my son is a healthy and active baby..but still, even my liftman or watchman or even my maid tell me …Give proper meal he looks very thin? Why he is so thin? Why this ?? why that?? There are many questions whose answers even I don’t know why??

He is an active and healthy baby that matters to me, but society keeps me judging as he looks thin.

I give him proper diet and proper nutrients now it’s his body structure he is not gaining fat … now this should not be the reason to judge me as a mom …as I am a NORMAL MOM #MujheSabNahiPata

As we ended the session with tying a knot to remind myself to say loud when I don’t know anything and keep on sharing my experience to fellow moms so that we can learn from each other and make our motherhood more exciting and loveable journey.

Like me, you must have gone through such moments in life do share your such moment in comment section below..may be your #MujheSabNahiPata.

© Ruchie Verma.

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