Handling your Child’s Anger


Anger is a very common emotion we all have it and it all depends on how we deal with these emotions and how we teach our kids to carry this in a better way!!

I was among those kids who used to be an angry child…but I am glad that my parents and especially my mom have controlled it in a beautiful manner.

Deal Anger with 5 easy ways

Be the right role model

Kids nowadays mimic what they see around, the love doing role plays. Trust me parents are always their kid’s role model so they follow how you and what you do, how you handle your anger?

Remember to tell them when you are angry, tell them you need some time to calm down. In that way, they will learn to manage anger and understand that “Anger is a common emotion and its not weakness.”

Stay Calm, Just Act not overreact

If your child is getting angry, remember don’t yell, shout on them. It will turn another way round and they will be more rebel in action, fear to react next time which can turn in a bigger problem.

But now you have to tell also that this is wrong, tell that this behavior is bad, talk to your child and make him understand getting angry on small things and reacting in such manner is bad manners and it will not be good to carry.


No Harsh Punishments

As a parent need to teach them right and wrong. Give them small punishment for example: If in anger they have thrown things, tell them to clean the room.

Tell them that this punishment is for bad behavior not because you got angry. Don’t try to kill their anger emotion as every emotion has an important value in life.

Pay Attention, Don’t freeze yourself

It’s perfectly ok to walk away from the room and give them space but remember that space should not be so big that can’t be filled. Don’t freeze yourself as a parent, don’t talk to them for some time, stay back in your room but keep a watch.

Pay attention that what and how the child reacts after you walk away. You are giving strength to your child to handle anger by staying calm.

Talk to your child

Confront your child what makes him angry, try to understand their points. For you, the reason for anger might be small but for kids, that could be big. Try to listen and solve their queries.

Tell them if you were in their place how you would have handled the situation.

Why Anger Management is important?

If you don’t control your child’s anger it can turn into aggression and early age aggression could be really serious for your kid and a higher risk of: “School failure, Physical Violence, and Mental illness”

Encourage them to express and try to talk so that they don’t develop negative thoughts and negative ideas.

How I do deal with my Kids Anger?

My kids too have anger and they know that punishment is definitely their for bad behavior not for their anger. But, to make them calm I need to calm myself which I do usually counting backward..(It still helps me many times)

Then I ask them to give me a hug, physical touch or hug can control a lot and a lot of damage. But as they were angry they always deny. I used to walk away in the next room telling them to clean up all mess they creating due to BAD behavior and can come anytime when they feel to give me a hug.

Trust me they come back to me in 5 min, hugs me and we talk. This way I am helping my kids to control their most important emotion “ANGER“. I make sure that they get engaged and learn and explore new things themselves to control anger too. How you handle such a situation? Do share in the comment section below!!


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Ruchi Verma

Certified parenting teen practitioner, multiple Award winner, mother of two active kids believes in sharing the right source of information to readers which could help them in every possible way!!

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  1. Anger Management is so important, right from an early age. Talking to your child calmly is something which usually works for me. Also being the right role model is very important as kids imitate what they see.

  2. Staying calm that also construes to demonstrating the umpteenth amount of patience is one of the key things that all parents should follow.

  3. I must say this is really very helpful post for women to control anger of child. Thankyou so much for share this post.

  4. It is such a helpful post in handling the anger of children. I absolutely loved it 🙂

  5. Theirs tips are really helpful . I am a trainee teacher . I can apply them in my class too ?

  6. It’s important to understand the right way to raise your kid in today’s world. It’s always a trick to balance between being strict and lenient. Such a great read.

  7. Thats a very informative and helpful post for all the parents for dealing properly with kids for anger mangement. We should be calm and composed.

  8. Glad you approached this subject of anger Management in kids. It is so important to realise this from an early age and then take measures to rectify it.

  9. I must share this very helpful anger management in kids post with my aunt for her lil one. She’s been having some trouble with him lately. ?

  10. Just read your Instagram post and this topic is important to discuss. Kids can get very angry about anything and we have to understand and handle it.

  11. Noor Anand Chawla

    Wonderful post Ruchi! The best thing we can do is not lose our tempers at them/in front of them, and be good role models.

  12. I think talking and understanding the child is important as you said. Very informative.

  13. Ruchi you have nailed it a very nice topic you have picked it’s really difficult sometimes to tackle with kids when they get angry.. . This definitely will help us. Ty for sharing

  14. That’s really a important topic ya. And yes it’s true that you must be a ideal role model in front of them.

  15. Anger management is quite important, especially for kids and also for the grown ups. You have shared some great tips with us. Hope this will help the parents in managing their kid’s anger.

  16. Parents definitely need to control their anger when they around kids as they kind of stimulate it in the kids. Only composed parents can handle an angry kid well.

  17. Anger management is so important in today’s time. Kids need special guidance from an early age to deal with anger issues. Thanks for writing a blog post on it.

  18. I am surely going to take care of the tips which you mentioned. Zumi is in the stage when sometimes he get angry & behave little rude. Thanks for tips dear.

  19. I am an extrovert so when I become silent the kid knows that I didn’t like his behaviour. But honestly I liked your post buddy.

  20. Nice post with good tips.
    I stop talking with them for sometime and then later make them realise thier mistake.

  21. Oh .. this is a very helpful post. Recently my daughter turned 4 and it is difficult for me to deal with her anger issues. Thanks for sharing will try out these 5 easy ways.

  22. That’s very important and useful post for everyone.

    It’s not easy to deal with kids temperament.

  23. Bahut hi accha subject select kiya aur kitne acche se sab details me bataya bhi, wish ki jab mere bacche chotey thy tab aisa koi guidance mil jaata to kitna accha hota
    Lakin ab apne baccho ko main ye bata aur samjha sakti hu na
    Thanks for useful post ??

  24. Anger management in children is very crucial these days, as patience is something most kids lack. Good to know your thoughts on it.

  25. Anger in kids is one thing that all parent should take care of. Great tips for managing it.

  26. That’s such a important post, we all need to stay calm and handle kids peacefully.

  27. These tips are nice to manage child’s anger and make them understand a calm way to deal.

  28. I myself have been struggling with this quite a bit. I get overtly angry as I am unable to manage my stubborn toddler. Thanks for the tips!

  29. I think this post is really informative for mothers as it deals with anger management issues pertaining to the child. Very well written

  30. There are many a times that parents forget that kids need to be treated differently when it comes to reprimanding them.

    Well explained and is something which every parent of a growing up child needs to take care of.

  31. When a child is taught to handle his anger issues or say emotions early in life. He/She grows up a person who can see any situation better. Glad to read your tips.

  32. I think anger management among kids is tougher than one can imagine. These are some really useful tips.

  33. Very pertinent post. Glad you have touched upon the topic l of anger management…truly the need of the hour for every parent.

  34. I love the post and your anger management tricks which you use with your kids. Sometimes I do the same.

  35. Dealing with anger is a very critical aspect. You have penned this post so well, thanks for sharing on anger management and how to deal with it..

  36. Facing this problem right . my daughter never show anger on me but when my husband scold him she yell on him. I will try your tips to see her reaction

  37. It’s so useful tips for parents. Really, kids follow us only. Whatever we do, whatever we tell, they just do the same. Now when he throws tantrum, when he becomes angry, I do all the funny things for him. ???

  38. Being a mom of a growing up son I have to deal with anger occasionally. Some good tips here. Punishment doesn’t help or work always.

  39. So haapy to come across such article…though my son is too young for these things but still precautions are better than cure

  40. A very important topic which will help all parents.We need to.handle our own anger too.

  41. Great post ! I loved where you have mentioned anger is also an emotion and we shouldn’t suppress it. I so agree. Dealing with it correctly is so important.

  42. I try to be the right inspiration in front of my son and then though not 100% but I try to keep calm.

  43. I’m noticing increased aggression in my toddler and have been wondering how best to handle it. I agree with staying calm and setting the right example but it gets really difficult to do so specially when one’s tired.

  44. Anger needs to be addressed for all age groups and especially in kids as a small incident also leaves a big mark in their lives. Well drafted post Ruchi.

  45. Thanks for some useful tips. I also try to talk to my child when he is angry rather than shutting him up.

  46. These are some really helpful tips Ruchi. Counting backwards is my favorite strategy as well

  47. I try to tell my son to start counting and deep breathing. He doesn’t get angry too much. Explaining them things works the best.

  48. This is quite a helpful post to manage anger in kids. I am saving it to refer to it again.

  49. Anger is usually such a destructive emotion that it needs to be avoided. Kids need to learn to manage this emotion quite early. I guess the best way to teach them how to handle anger is by setting an example.

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